Stay away from Anger... It hurts ...

Only You!!!



The Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion. One
day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young
man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching
others, he shouted." You are as stupid as everyone else. You are
nothing but a fake."

Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man
"Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take
it, to whom does the gift belong?"

The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and
answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."

The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the
same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get
insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one
who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."

"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger
and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become
unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."

The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. "You
are right, o Enlightened One, "he said. "Please teach me the path of
love. I wish to become your follower."

The Buddha answered kindly, "Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants
to learn. Come with me."

Beautiful Quotes

If you are right then there is no need to get angry, And if you are
wrong then you don't have any right to get angry.

Patience with family is love,
Patience with others is respect,
Patience with self is confidence and
Patience with GOD is faith.

Never Think Hard about PAST, It brings Tears...
Don't Think more about FUTURE, It brings Fears...
Live this Moment with a Smile, It brings Cheers.!!!!

Every test in our life makes us bitter or better,
Every problem comes to make us or break us,
Choice is our whether we become victim or victorious !!!

Search a beautiful heart not a beautiful face.
Beautiful things are not always good but
good things are always beautiful.

Remember me like pressed flower in your Notebook. It may not be having
any fragrance but will remind you of my existence forever in your
life.

Do you know, why God created gaps between fingers? So that someone who
is special to you, comes and fills those gaps by holding your hands
forever.

Positive Thinking Your Key to Success

by Remez Sasson
Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.
Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.
In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.
Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?
Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?

Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:
Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.

Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.

Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.

In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.

Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.

Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.

Watch movies that make you feel happy.

Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers.

Associate yourself with people who think positively.

Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.

Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.

Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.
Follow the tips and suggestions in this article, and prove to yourself the reality the power of positive thinking. More advanced and powerful techniques, instructions and exercises can be found in the following books:
Visualize and Achieve
Affirmations Words of Power

When you expect success and say "I can", you fill yourself with confidence and joy.

Fill your mind with light, hope and feelings of strength, and soon your life will reflect these qualities.

Appreciations

A child, who has been over protected and habitually given whatever he or she  wanted, would develop the entitlement mentality and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. 

When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. 

This kind of person, may be good academically and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. 

If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?* 
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat  good meals, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let him experience it. After a meal, let him wash his plates and bowls together with his brothers and sisters. 

It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love him in the right way. You want him to understand, no matter how rich his parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young man. 

. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done. 

Gratitude and appreciations

This is a powerful message in our modern society. We seemed to have lost our bearings & our sense of direction. 

One, young, academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. 

He passed the first interview. The director who did the lastinterview, made the last decision. The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research. He never had a year when he did not score. 

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" The youth answered "none". 

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old. It was my mother who paid for my school fees." 

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as a clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect. 

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me." 

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands and then see me tomorrow morning." 

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange,  but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to her son. 

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tears fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water. 

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future. 

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother. 

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. 

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes and asked, " Can you tell me what  you did and learned yesterday in your house?" The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hands, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes.' 

The Director asked, " Please tell me your feelings." 

The youth said, Number 1, I know now the meaning of appreciation. Without my mother, I wouldn't not be the successful today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only now I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship. 

The director said, " This is what I am looking for in my new  manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. Son,you are hired." 

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.